WHY AM INTO MARRIAGE

My friend Ruthie C wrote to me and said: These days u seem so much invested into marriage and family.

RESPONSE: You are right. Here is why:

1. Marriage is a seed of a proper and sound family. Right families are the nucleus of conducted communities and it is these communities upon which other bigger sociologies we call Nations are founded. So I think and am convinced that Marriage matters not just for our anthropology but for our sociology as WELL. Many families are broken based on the quality of the seed. Many children on streets, drug addicts, prostitutes, robbers, etc are products of single parents and victims of divorce. Others are products of genetically modified Seeds-like marriages where spouses living together is more of an abuse of the children and family at large than them separated. Something is wrong with marriage as the seed of our nations and that is why we are suffering the social problems we face today. We cannot afford a civilized culture without a civil marriage in place.

2. I am a marriage material. I rather host a DYSFUNCTIONAL TOGETHERNESS than an EFFICIENT SINGLENESS . I am a social being whose peace, fulfillment and meaning of life is appreciated more in fights and fixing broken things than in a chaos-free loneliness where there is nothing to fix and learn from. It is in marriage and family settings where we learn that PAIN plus PLEASURE equals life and living. Many avoid marriage and family due to its enormous problems (Pain) while others unsuspectingly jump into marriage and family based on the deception that it is all flowers and gifts (Pleasure). The truth is both categories are wrong. Marriage and family is a sociology of pain and pleasure and the product is an experience that grows us. Having a sexually functional body and choosing to be single throughout life, celibacy, or even chosen eunachism is blasphemy to our creator and at the same time a habit of eating seeds to get rid of a harvest.

3. I don’t believe in SAMENESS but rather in DIFFERENCES, that is why my world view of marriage, family, and community is one where there is a clear and established absolute distinction between a MAN and a WOMAN. I find not so much adventure in a man marrying a fellow man and a woman marrying a fellow woman based on the IDENTITY Feelings, Orientations and perceptions of each. A real community is one where MEN are men and WOMEN are women and together meet on the lifelong project of living, growing and innovating together, bringing their natural differences in physic and psych to achieve a goal as opposed to the the artificial intelligence where it is assumed that a woman was placed in a man’s body and a man was placed in a woman’s body. Therefore, marry look alikes who even combined in a test tube (In Vitro Fertilization) cannot reproduce their kind.

4. Marriage and family are training institutes of two major things of our being and these are: 1-LIFE and 2-LOVE. We can only learn part of what life and living is in schools and other institutions like the military etc. But True life and living is what you learn from the stories, events and experiences at your home. Even what you learn after you left home, is in relation to the worldview you were given at home. Family teaches us that when parents undeservedly love us as imbecile children, they are teaching us that love is a choice we make not what people earn. In the process, we are trained at home to choose to love those spouses who actually don’t deserve us and our future indulgent children. LIFE and LOVE. It matters, therefore, that you marry someone you love, because marriage is about carrying and cleaning their shit and trust me, shit from the your loved one doesn’t stink as much as other people’s shit.

5. Finally, I believe Family is not a GENEALOGY (logic of genes) or a BIOLOGY which can be determined in a scientific laboratory by investigating the DNA but rather to me family is a GENERATION of people from all corners of the world with different genes and races but with a common agreement to do not just good but RIGHT. To me family is a BELIEF, and you will realize that the people who matter most even in a small thing like your phone book are not the ones you share genes with. Some genes produce long nosed people, while other genes produce flattened nose people, and it is these genes we sociologically name tribes. The day we will understand that both a Muganda and a Munyarwanda (ALL TRIBES) are not natural but artificial and social-constructs based on gene types we will embark on a redefinition of WHO IS FAMILY or who to make FAMILY WITH. Personally, I have received a revelation from God that henceforth I don’t marry a tribe but for purposes of genes reproduction, I marry a gene type. I wish I could be understood. Now here is the truth, family is not just something built on right PRINCIPLES (right doctrinal belief systems), true family is one built on and by the right PRINCIPAL (Being). We are not family because we believe and agree on the same things, we are family because apart from agreeing on the right principles, we are governed by the same PRINCIPAL. To me this is the one true uncaused-cause God, who got incarnated, laid down his life and resurrected for our salvation to which family is one of the benefits.

That is why am so much invested into marriage and family.

I think, and will continue thinking, that marriage and family are not old-school and neither are they outdated if understood properly.

FAILING AT SOMETHING MANY TIMES DOESN’T MAKE IT WRONG, IT ONLY MAKES IT A STANDARD YOU CURRENTLY HAVEN’T COPED WITH KEEP TRYING INSTEAD OF SHIFTING GOALPOSTS TO SCORE AN OWN GOAL.

God bless you, i invoke TRUTH, WISDOM & FAITH (2Tim 2:7)
Priest Mutabazi Isaiah Tumwine White
iTiS Well of Worship Fellowship (john 4:24)
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