“Deliver us from D-Evil”
It has come to my notice that in East Africa there is a growing percentage of single people who are falling victims of married opportunists and vultures. Am sorry in this article am going to be so hard on married people and lenient with the single ones due to my dual experience. It is hardly that single people approach married people for a relationship, it is always married people who approach the singles for such and of the 80% of married people who approach singles only,15% disclose their status.
So majority singles are in these relationships blindly and ignorantly, well this does not justify the singles and neither does it turn them from being sinners to saints just because they don’t know…a crime does not qualify to be a crime basing on who commits it, it is a penalty that does. A crime is a crime regardless of whether you know what you are doing or not. So singles please keep updated.
8 REASONS WHY THE MARRIED ARE DRAWN TO SINGLES
1~Minimal levels of commitment
It is sometimes a no strings attached thing…who doesn’t enjoy such!!!
2~Sexual excitement
Comparative sex, enjoying a different dish and services
3~Money Factor
Some loaded married people will invest in singles and clear the bills and the other way round…some singles will feed and financially support your family and marriage.
4~Dysfunctional but existing Marriages
Some of these married individuals come from marriages that have been dead for a while, poor or no sex at all, domestic violence, separated but in the same house…disease, etc. Marriage just is for social status (religion and political position) or for children.
5~Boredom
Drudgery of daily life and routine acts by the spouse. Lack of creativity, etc
6~Barrenness and the search of different sex of kids
Hunting for children if the spouse has none or given our primitive cultural understandings hunting for a different sex if you have the same sex in all kids.
7~Myth
The idea that, if you had children with her/him they will look like him or her both psychologically and physically…or the idea that your financial blessings depend on who you sleep with.
Before I state the eighth reason, let me first demonstrate the problems that both the single and married person in a relationship face as individuals:
THE SINGLE PERSON
~Self-Image
You are either the other woman or the other man. You are but an alternative not the intended choice…it is you when everything important fails.
~You remain single throughout the affair.
Do not be fooled, he/she is not never yours
~You are a Crutch
Of the three peddles you neither an accelerator peddle (you cannot activate anything) nor are you a Break peddle (you can’t stop a thing)…you are just a crutch helping the other two (them and their spouse) essential peddles. Well you can encourage yourself that you are useful not until the vehicle is automatic.
~You are likely to loose friends
Those who do not approve such a relationship, or actually spouses to the very people you are dating.
~You invest time, yourself and resources in vain.
Literally everything including the truth is a lie if they are still together…so your money, time and self-sacrifice is all but a waste if they are not willing to leave them.
~You risk three important things
1-Your self/life and 2-Your marriage opportunities, and 3-your child as a single parent
THE MARRIED INDIVIDUAL
~Self-Image
You are the cheat-rat. You are the loose end in your marriage you are leaking…you are the entrance of all evil in your marriage.
~Double Self-Expense
You waste and spend a lot in resources and ware out yourself in the body
~Insecurity
You become a constant liar, routinely telling one lie after another and as all lies, consistence always fails.
~You risk three important things:
1-Yourself, 2-Your children (home and away) and 3-Your marriage
Now let me wind up with the 8th reason which is:
8 ~SIN
finally As a theologian I have one ultimate cause for all the problems…and that is “SIN” and sin is not WHAT WE DO WRONG, but HOW NATURALLY WRONG WE ARE even before we do wrong. (Psalms 51:5, Jer 13:23, 17:1-2,9-10, Rom 3:9-18,23-26) That is why we are saved by Grace and we need Jesus Christ.
The truth is what you are doing is wrong…but am trained in realism and I know you might not stop any soon…so let me preach to you honestly. It is not so much HOW WRONG WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS, but HOW WRONG YOU ARE. You see there are two different things:
1-DOING THE WRONG THING
2-BEING A WRONG PERSON
Be honest with yourself: are you just Doing the wrong thing or you are a wrong person. The logic here is simple: you can be a GOOD PERSON and DO A WRONG THING, but you cannot BE A BAD PERSON and DO GOOD….(Mark 7, John 8:40-44) and that is why lords prayer does not ask God to deliver us from SIN but: deliver us from “EVIL”. We are all sinners and that is not a problem for to have fallen short of the glory….the problem is that some are sinners (DOING WRONG) while some sinners are EVIL (BEING WRONG).
You are just being EVIL by lying to him/her, for your selfish intentions. You are being evil by wasting their time and having children with them knowing you are taking them no where. You are being opportunistic if they are in love and your are in business… You are not merely a sinner but of your father devil…the D-Evil one if they are the only one in a relationship… If you said the TRUTH the damage is smaller compared to the damage caused or yet to be caused by DECEPTION.
God bless you as you choose to be a good sinner rather than being an evil sinner
I T WHITE
@THINK & BECOME (Inspirational Link)
iTiS Well of Worship Ministries
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